I know, I know, it’s been ages since I’ve been here. I think about the blog everyday, ideas for posts pop into my head regularly, but sitting down and writing them seems to be too difficult. I guess you could say I am blocked. I am hoping that this one helps me write others, so I will be back soon, but today I wanted to share something important with you.
There are many moments, as a parent, that make you feel proud of your children: a good school report, going into pre-school without crying, watching them be kind to a friend or a sibling, watching them play football. I’m not sure, that so far, anything has topped the moment, a few weeks ago, when MM announced that he’d like to raise some money for charity. Maybe it was motivated by seeing others do similar, maybe by that nice feeling we get when we do something nice, who knows?
We chatted about what kind of charity he’d like to support and he was keen to do something that would help children. We had recently finished the amazing book, The Light Jar by Lisa Thompson, which centres around a boy and his mother who have fled an abusive partner. (I know this sounds like a grim book for a nine year old, but I promise it isn’t. I’m going to do a round up of some of the books we’ve read to MM recently, but for now, trust me) We talked about how the boy in the book had to leave with virtually nothing, in a night-time flit and I told him about a local charity that runs refuges and offers support to families fleeing domestic violence. MM was really interested in helping a smaller charity, rather than one of the big national charities, as he felt that they already had lots of support, so we settled on Leeway Domestic Violence and Abuse Services.
Next we had to think about what he wanted to do. I did suggest getting school involved for a collection of things the charity needs, but he was reluctant. My boy doesn’t like the spotlight, especially at school and so this was a step too far for him, so we settled on a sponsored project for the summer holidays. He is going to run the distance of a marathon, starting at the beginning of August and finishing before he goes back to school. He felt that this was something he’d enjoy and was achievable, but that he would still need to show commitment, as he’s going to have to run nearly every day, including when we go away on holiday, with his plan to run a mile a day.
Having said he doesn’t like the spotlight, he is happy to ask people on the Internet to sponsor him and gave his full consent for me to write about his challenge. I get that and I hope you do to. Sometimes I find it easier to share things via a screen, than I do when a person is in front of me and I think the attention from friends and teachers just felt a little overwhelming.
So, if you can spare a couple of pounds to help motivate him and help a really fantastic charity, doing great work to help adults and children in the most dire of circumstances then we would be so grateful. You can find his sponsorship page here. It really doesn’t have to be much, the price of a takeaway coffee would be brilliant.
I’ve been thinking a lot about privilege recently and how fortunate we are. Our home is secure, we live a settled, comfortable life, where we don’t face prejudice or abuse and I often wonder if as a result, my children are growing up in a vacuum. As I’ve said before, I talk about the wider world and try to open them up to it, but children can often seem like selfish creatures, cross because you won’t buy them a thing that everyone else has, or let them stay up and watch a film that is too old for them. To have a child who not only realises that others are not in as fortunate as he is, but also wants to do something to help, however small his contribution, gives me hope for the future and makes me beyond proud.
So, come on Internet, do your thing, so he knows that others will do something to help him on his journey. Let’s make his first fundraising experience a good one!
Thank you and I promise I will be back in this space very soon.